Don't Be Afraid, Go Out On A Limb

Fear can be crippling. In order to see our businesses flourish, we have to take calculated risks. However, it is often easier said than done. Last weekend I had the pleasure of attending the 4th Annual Next Level Development Conference for Women of Color hosted at The Sheraton in Springfield, Mass.


The brainchild and vision of Kimberly Robinson Williams, the conference exists to promote the career and personal development of women and people of color across professions, industries and levels of experience. Audra Bohannon, Vice President of Diversity and Inclusion for Global Novations, presented one of the workshops titled, “Efficacy: Success Strategies for Career Success.” It was brilliantly put together and I was quite pleased to learn that I have been on the right track when it comes to my career.

Then we came to the portion of the program that asked us to write down things we have always wanted to accomplish but still have not. That was easy, too. But then she asked, “What can get in the way?” And that is where I got the first chink in my armour. The things I have accomplished and are known to be great at, well, they come naturally to me. Currently, there are only a few things that make me weak in the knees (Not actually true. If I were to list all of the animals, creepy crawlers and reptiles that turn my blood to ice you’d be reading a book not a column). Since I believe in the practice what you preach motto, I am going to so that I can be held accountable by you. Give me a microphone and place me in front of an audience and my throat will lock. I begin to sound like I inhaled a can of helium. It’s not that I am not prepared to speak or that I am not knowledgeable on the subject. I just begin to wonder what the thoughts are behind all of those roving eyeballs.

Oddly enough, I have spoken to classes, organizations and civic meetings – some have went better than others. However, my worst experience with public speaking took place when I was in Thailand participating in Group Study Exchange, a program sponsored by Rotary International. For six weeks I travelled the country with my other team mates, practically (in my mind) making a fool of myself at every club meeting. I’d be fine leading up to it. I’d even feel quite calm, but one second before I opened my mouth my palms would start sweating and a death grip would seize my vocal cords. My favourite joke on the subject comes from Jerry Seinfeld. He said, "The number one fear is public speaking. Number two is death. Number two. That means most people would rather be in the casket than doing the eulogy."

The Next Level Conference encouraged me to think about fear. Sometimes we’re willing to take a backseat to it rather than follow our hearts. While I believe most people will admit they have a fear of failure, I think it actually comes back to worrying how others view your failure. For example, I fail at things all the time. I’ve slipped on winter ice in my drive way before or put on my shirt backwards. Heck, one morning during my high school days I made it half a block before I realized I hadn’t combed my hair that morning. Did I care about many of these mishaps? No. Why? No one was around to witness them.

Going out on a limb in clear view is scary. We’re vulnerable and visible. The funny thing is that when we fear doing what we want to because of how we may be perceived, we not only miss out on a fantastic opportunity to grow, but we wind up with that feeling that I refuse become friends with, regret.

When I left the conference that afternoon, I left with one mission in mind: Over the next three months I am going accept all of the speaking engagements I had previously turned down. I am going to tiptoe to the edge of my comfort zone, open my arms and take a leap of faith – and I don’t care who is watching. Someone once told me that whatever people think of me is none of my business anyway.